If I had to guess, I'd wager that, "But, is that safe?!” is the number one question moms who plan an out-of-hospital birth hear. Never mind the questioners regularly do numerous things that are far less safe than a healthy woman giving birth to a healthy baby, without even considering their proximity to a hospital. Having to decide whether to even go there with uninformed questioners is one of those struggles moms who didn't give birth in a hospital know.
Before I got pregnant with my son, I had a couple of traumatic experiences in hospitals that left me resolved to avoid them if possible (like, unless I'm in immediate danger of losing life or limb). I also had an OB-GYN who really scared and frustrated me, so after giving her a number of chances with no improvement, I fired her and started seeing midwives instead. Like me, they believe that a healthy pregnancy and birth is a normal life event, not an illness or injury. They're also a practice made up entirely of badass feminists, whose philosophies on a lot of things line up with mine. I was really thrilled with my choice, and would do it again in a heartbeat if I'm (again) lucky enough to experience a healthy pregnancy with a healthy baby.
However, while the struggles of birthing outside a hospital might not be as big as the struggles hospital-averse mamas might experience if we were there, they still exist. The folks coming to my house for my birth weren't going to feed themselves, after all. If the following struggles are at all familiar to you, you're in good company. (And if you're currently anticipating an out-of-hospital birth, repeat these mantras whenever you have to deal with frustrating questions and judgments. You got this!)