When it came to pregnancy, there were more than a few things I had to explicitly ask for. When I was experiencing morning sickness all day and every damn day, I had to ask people to avoid eating certain foods around me (or wearing certain perfumes, or cooking certain meals in general). I had to ask if someone would give up their seat on the metro, and if my partner could slow his roll when we took our daily walks. However, there are more than a few things a woman shouldn't have to ask for when she's pushing and her pregnancy is coming to an end. Seriously, when labor and delivery starts, asking for necessary things should stop.
I was "lucky," in that I had a pleasant labor and delivery despite pretty horrible circumstances. I was initially pregnant with twins, but one of my twin sons died in utero when I was 19 weeks pregnant. From that moment on, and even in the throes of pushing, I was cognizant of the fact that I would have to birth a baby that was alive, and a baby that wasn't. Emotional hardships aside (and trust me, it was incredibly difficult to handle) my, um, "unique" situation was also going to make labor and delivery somewhat complicated. Still, I was respected in every aspect of the word, received constant updates, and was treated like a human being who deserved to have a say in what was happening to her body. In fact, I shouldn't consider myself "lucky," I should just consider my experience the bare minimum in healthcare.
Still, I know not everyone receives that care. Until women in the middle of pushing a human outside of their body are given the respect they deserve, and no longer have to ask for the following things, I will have to continue to consider myself "lucky."