When it came to postpartum life, it's safe to say I was barely prepared for any of it. Sure, I learned how to get my baby in his infant carseat, breastfeed (kind of), and change the tiniest diaper I had ever seen, but so much of those first few post-baby months were brand new territory. So, I honestly shouldn't have been surprised when I wasn't prepared for that first post-baby BFF hangout, either. I'll just add it to an already overwhelming list of things I didn't have a damn clue about.
My best friend is more than just a friend, but a sister born in a different state and to a different family. We joke that she's actually my soulmate, and the father of my child and romantic partner is just some guy I have decided to live my life with. She is my "person," the one who has known and seen me through the highest of highs and the lowest, most painful of lows. So, honestly, I was a little worried that doing something as life-changing as having a baby would change our relationship in some way. What if we no longer had anything in common? What if she resented me for becoming a mom, when she never had plans to do the same? What if our lives just went in drastically different directions, and it would no longer make sense for us to be friends anymore?
It's impossible to know how a baby will affect your relationships until, you know, you have a baby. Thankfully, all of my worries proved to be unnecessary when I sat across from my BFF for the first time since having a baby. Instead of seeing my worst fears realized, I felt the following: