As a woman on my third pregnancy (and my second marriage) in my 30s, I have heard a ton of unsolicited comments and questions about my age, my health, my family planning choices, and my future plans for my family. Was it planned? Yes, not that it's any of your business. Did you use fertility treatments? Are you serious? Have you heard about higher rates of birth defects in babies born to older moms? Now you're just being rude. There are things that pregnant women in their 30s are seriously tired of hearing, and I seem to have heard them all.
I waited until I was 30 to start having kids, which is something that definitely seemed to confuse and upset some people. Yes, some people actually choose to wait, others choose to start early, and others do both. All of those choices are personal. While I am anything but conventional, honestly, being pregnant in your 30s is not a novelty anymore, as more and more families are waiting to have kids and medical technology is making pregnancy at older ages possible and safe.
The things about pregnancy is that it's super personal, and there may be a million reasons why someone is pregnant at a given moment. They might have struggled to get pregnant or their pregnancy might have been a complete surprise. They might be delighted, upset, or ambivalent about it. They might be a gestational surrogate. They might be planning adoption. They might not even be pregnant at all. There's no way to know, so it's often super insensitive and rude to make comments or ask questions.