You know how, when you're flying on a plane, the flight attendants doing the safety demo always remind you that if things start going haywire and the oxygen masks drop, you have to put your own mask on first before helping anyone else? Even though daily life with your family shouldn't feel like a plane in distress (at least, not most of the time), that "take care of yourself so you can take care of others" mindset is critical, especially when you're a stay-at-home mom. In other words, there are several important things grown-ass stay-at-home-moms do, without guilt or apologies, in order to keep themselves from burning out.
Real talk: as great as it is to be able to stay home with our kids, being a stay-at-home mom is still work, and it still involves sacrifice. While parenting is always challenging no matter what arrangement we choose, spending the majority of your time with kids can be both especially fun, and especially tiring. Having worked with kids as a teacher, worked with other adults, and worked at home and stayed at home with kids, the times where I've felt the most spent at the end of the day (though also, the most happy) have definitely been when I've passed most of my day with kids. Between their high energy levels, the amount of effort you invest in making countless moment-to-moment decisions on their behalf, and the constant vigilance required to make sure they're safe, kids will take a lot out of you. It's important to protect and restore that energy every day.
That's why moms who know what's up know that putting boundaries on their time, energy, and attention is priority one. We may make some mistakes from time-to-time, but more often than not, we remember to do the following things so that we can keep showing up and kicking ass at the best job in the world: raising our awesome kids.