11 Things You Should Never Say To A Mom Who Doesn't Have A Nanny
byM. Esther Sherman
In the beautiful world of motherhood, there
is a tower of status and prestige. Don’t worry, guys — the mom guilt and
judgment is used on all moms. Perhaps at the very top of the mothering
totem pole are those fabulous moms with nannies. Yes, I'm referring to those delightful
creatures who I imagine have time to do their make-up without having any toddlers trying grab their boobs. These women (again, I imagine) know how
to make being a mom look good and, though we want to hate them (not really hate, but fake "I respect your choices but also your life looks easier than mine so I kind of hate you" hate), it’s kind of
hard to do because they always have the good wine. There's no winning!
Then, there are the rest of us: The moms
who don’t have nannies. We are also kind of awesome, even though we typically
have littles grabbing at us to get our attention during the morning routine (eh, who are we kidding: we're too busy trying to get everyone out the door to have much of a ~morning make-up routine~). We are kind of great
even though when we want to exercise, we are reminded that we don’t have access to responsible childcare. At the end of the day, we are just like moms with nannies...except we don’t have nannies. And that’s OK. Well, it’s OK most of the time but
other times, it becomes an annoyance. I mean, of course having another set of hands on Team Parent would be a welcome thing. Even people who do have nannies, if you were like, "Hey, how would you feel about two nannies?!" would probably be all, "Uh, duh, sure, bring it." Extra help is great. Kids are a lot to handle.
That said, a lot of moms don't have nannies, and with all due non-shame to moms who do, not having regular professional help with our kids is not the end of the world. But it does change things, both for the better and worse. That said, there are some things we get really tired
of hearing. (No, like, seriously, please stop saying these things to moms who don’t
have nannies.)