For me, as a parent, it's really hard to find a so-called "balance." In fact, I'm starting to wonder if one exists at all. Between my career, my relationships, my household responsibilities, and parenthood, it's difficult to find a neutral setting that helps me navigate life as a working mom of two in a feasible, sustainable way. Thankfully, there things every lighthouse mom wants helicopter moms to know; things I've learned, as a mom who has admittedly been both, that can help us all find a middle ground that works best for us and our unique families.
For the record, I didn't set out to be a helicopter mom. I simply reacted naturally, and my innate instincts left me hovering over my children. There wasn't a moment when I realized that I needed to take a big step back, either, but instead many moments that helped me move towards a more "lighthouse" way of parenting. Now, like a lighthouse guides ships coming and going, I simply try to guide my children down a path that will keep them healthy, happy, and safe. A lighthouse is a beacon of knowledge that provides insight and guidance from a distance, allowing the ships to navigate potentially treacherous seas successfully and on their own. Isn't that the goal of a pa rent, too? To help our children find their own way, independent of their parents and on their own terms?
These personal revelations and my evolution as a parent didn't happen over night, of course. In fact, I'm still a work in progress. But when I feel myself hovering or failing to give my kids the space they need, I remember what any lighthouse mom would want a helicopter mom to know, including the following: