When a woman, who happens to be a mother, works outside of the house she has to compromise. She has to accept she won't make every school event, won't be able to volunteer for the PTA, won't chaperone school trips, and won't pick her kids up after school. She acknowledges missed appointments, forgotten activities, and late arrivals. She schedules doctors appointments months in advance due to inflexibility. She is aware of it all. Yet while many know pursuing a career in addition to motherhood is often a trade-off, there are things you shouldn't compromise as a working mom, either. You shouldn't have to settle for whatever it is society is claiming to be necessary.
When I started working outside of the house, I felt smothered. I felt completely overwhelmed and struggled with trying to find a balance. After months of beating myself up over not being able to do it all, I accepted there is no "balance" and only a very methodical juggle. A juggle during which sometimes every piece crashed into the ground. A work-life balance seemed like a myth, created by those who want to sadistically watch women try and fail. Calling something a balance makes it seem peaceful and serene. There is nothing calm about trying to juggle a career and motherhood. There is only hectic compromise.
Like I said, moms who work outside of the house have to settle for so much it sometimes feels defeating. But no matter how much you work, there are some things that should not be compromised on, up to and including the following: