Every mom has her own unique way of parenting her children, especially when it comes to discipline. Our parents, and their parents, might have relied on different disciplinary methods, but in the end we all, as mothers, decide what works best for ourselves and our unique kids. Yes, our moms can be a great source of information because, well, they've been there and done that, but I'd argue there are times when you shouldn't listen to your own mom, especially when it comes to child discipline. In the end she's not the mother of your children. You are.
As a grandmother, my mom is the best. My kids adore her uncanny sense of self and her ability to laugh at just about anything. Even though she and I haven't always gotten along, she's always been close with my kids. In fact, of all the grandparents in my children's lives, she spends the most time with them. Still, there are times when her "helping" is her really butting in and derailing my parenting efforts. It's probably hard to step back and let your own baby take care of her babies, but that's exactly what I need my mother to do sometimes. Instead of making things more difficult, she needs to trust that, in the end, I got this.
If you and your mom have a close relationship, and she isn't toxic or abusive, I'm going to go ahead and assume that she has a lot of solid parenting advice and you should probably listen to at least some of it. Experience is priceless. But in terms of discipline, you can feel free to ignore your own mom if (read: when) she tries the following: