I thought I was prepared for breastfeeding but, sadly, I wasn't. As much as bringing home a new baby can turn your world upside down, dealing with breastfeeding challenges complicates things even further. Thankfully, I was offered a ton of support from my partner, who kept me fed and calm (well, mostly calm) throughout the struggles. Struggles aren't a requirement when it comes to breastfeeding, but it was a significant part of my experience. Either way, I think it’s fair to say that there are specific things you can learn about your marriage after breastfeeding.
With a second child on the way, my husband and I are preparing ourselves to face some of the same issues head-on. Of course, there’s no way to know how this baby will handle breastfeeding until we’re in the throes of engorged breasts, late-night feedings, and nipple pain. (Unless there are any fortune tellers out there who can predict the future? If so, please show yourselves. I’ll take all the hints I can get.)
Whether it goes smoothly or not-so-smoothly, I suspect there will probably be some similarities to the first time around, which gave me great insights into our relationship that, seriously, I hardly considered until I was a slave to my newborn’s hunger patterns. Like: