Twice in the last year, my partner and I have prepared for a second baby. And twice in the last year, that second baby hasn't arrived. That's the peril of adopting with a primarily foster agency, and something that can happen no mater how you're trying to build your family. While it's been an emotional time for our family, it has helped me perfect my life of exactly what every mom should do before having a second baby. Heck, not everyone gets to prepare for that twice, right? #SilverLinings
And there certainly was a silver lining to enduring a difficult disappointment that was two failed adoptions in one year: I got a ton of intentional quality time with my daughter, thinking that it might be the last time she was my only child. She was still pretty young, so we took lots of walks and spent a lot of time wiggling around the floor. Even though we didn't do anything outrageous together, it was such a great reminder to get down on the floor and just soak her in, even when the laundry was beeping to be folded and the bottles were starting to get stinky in the sink. Those extra moments were such a blessing and, because I took the time to soak her in before impending babies arrived, I feel like I have her tiny toes and fingers and giggles imprinted on my brain.
I have to admit, though, that one thing on this list escaped me: completing her baby book. In fact, I've had a hard time starting it, even more than a year after her birth. I have a feeling it has something to do with just diving in, but there's something so monumental and long-lasting about a baby book that adds tons of pressure to the task. So, if you're expecting your second baby soon, have a peek at this list. While you're at it, I'm going to take a crack at that darn baby book once and for all!