It doesn't take long for misconceptions about millennials to lead to misconceptions about millennial moms and their habits and parenting. And, like most ideas with the word "millennial" attached, they're made up of more misconception than reality. Millennial has quickly become one of the most annoying buzzwords with a nasty edge to it, and that nasty edge is what leads to some of the most common misconceptions about millennial moms.
In reality, and despite the general label, millennial moms aren't all the same and the way they parent because runs the gamut between helicopter to attachment to free-range. If one generalization can be made, it's that millennial moms are forging new paths and standing up for the right to choose those paths.
Because of the current state of technology, millennial moms do have access to a lot more information. I'm much more apt to check on Google than ask our pediatrician to see what could be causing my daughter's constant runny nose or just a slight fever. I have access to more information about ways to parent or sleep schedules or even how my child could learn better. More access to more information doesn't make millennial moms terrible monsters, it just makes them different parents than generations before.
That We're All The Same
If you use the definition of millennial that has the generation being born between 1982 and 2001, we're currently the largest generation in the world. However, and of course, that doesn't mean we're all the same. Painting us all with the same brush means you generalize a huge chunk of the population and miss out on so much of what we all have to offer, which is basically the entire gamut of mothering. We're not all the same and we don't all fit the nasty millennial stereotype.
That We're Obsessed With Technology
As I see, this generalization is the biggest thing most people think of when they hear the word millennial, and subsequently millennial moms and their kids. There's a common misconception that millennials have screens attached to both hands at all times, and that they like to substitute screens for parenting when it comes to their kids.
I'm a millennial and most of my friends are millennial moms. While we were raised with technology and can't very well change that fact, we're all hyper aware of screens and are constantly working to figure out their role in our lives and the lives of our kids.
That We're Entitled
I do agree that we're a generation that was taught to know what we want, like, and feel, and to work out of that knowledge about ourselves. Self-awareness can often come across as entitlement, because when we know what works for us, we don't settle for what we know isn't enough for us or for our families. Millennial moms aren't entitled, they're informed and self-aware, looking for the best for themselves and their families and willing to speak up in order to make those things happen.
That We're Narcissistic
Narcissism is a word that's increasingly hard to avoid these days, whether you're talking about the president or millions of millennials. Relative to our parents' generation, we may seem narcissistic and social media certainly doesn't make that assertion easy to escape. I think all moms have to be a tiny bit self-concerned, and concerned with their own families, in order to put their needs and the needs of their families first. Narcissistic is a pretty strong word to use for moms who believe their children should have the best options possible. Some millennial moms do take it too far, but most simply focus on their own little bubble because that's what it takes to keep everything functioning.
That We Think We Can Have It All
To the contrary, I have had conversations with nearly all of my millennial mom friends about the fact that we simply cannot have it all. More and more millennial moms are coming to the really hard conclusion that we cannot, in fact, have it all. (Or if we are going to have it all, we may have to sacrifice sleep.)
That Everything Is About Social Media
The common misconception is that we all think we have to have the perfect Instagram partner and the Instagram family perfectly styled in order to craft the most perfect online existence. A small, small fraction of us have the time or energy for that, sur. However, we're being generalized as the vapid millennial mom generation when it's not fully warranted.
That The World Revolves Around Them
Honestly, if only this were true.
Millennial mothers are working mothers and stay-at-home mothers and work-from-home mothers who are juggling multiple responsibilities simultaneously. We've been taught that to be a "good mother," we must sacrifice every little part of ourselves, so to think that we think the world revolves around us is to essentially be blind to all millennial mothers are doing and all we've been taught.
That We Do Things Our Own Way
The common misconception about millennial moms is that we fly in the face of tradition and insist on charting our own path through motherhood. In some cases, this is true, but to me that seems to be a byproduct of having so much information and research at our fingertips. Because we have access to the internet and a whole legion of people who have done things any number of different ways, we're less likely to stick with the one option we have seen personally and more likely to try a new way we found on the internet.