An impending baby usually comes with a slew of unending questions, there's no doubt about it. However, that little life you're going to be responsible for also gives you some pretty quick insight into who you are as a person. Do you need to have every question answered -- like what your baby's gender is or -- or are you going to roll with the proverbial punches? Honestly, I thought I was the former, but as it turns out there were a whole lot of parenting questions I didn't need answered before my baby arrived.
Usually (although definitely not always) soon-to-be parents get around nine months to prepare for their baby's (or babies') arrival. As a result, I think society at large thinks it takes exactly 40 weeks, give or take a day or two, to be ready to become a parent. But what happens if you aren't allotted that amount of time? What happens when you're only a few weeks into your adoption journey when you get a call that your daughter is waiting for you in the hospital? Well, that's what happened to my partner and I, so I can tell you exactly what happens. If you're like us, you scramble just a bit, wander the aisles of Target completely overwhelmed, take a whole lot of deep breaths, and then you get to the hospital so you can meet your daughter. In other words, you do what you have to do and you figure everything else out afterwards.
My situation is extreme, of course, but there are plenty of situations in which women have their babies without answering the questions they probably wish they would have asked themselves beforehand. Whether it's due to an unexpected, premature birth, or a fostering and/or adoption scenario, parenthood is all about unanswered questions, regardless of how your journey unfolds. I think the most important thing to remember when you're facing the unknown is that most people, whether they think they're ready or not, are. Just like me, you'll figure everything else out after you have that precious baby in your arms.