About once a week my daughter has to much to say to herself, usually at night when she's in her crib, that she's occupied for a long time (think hours) before she finally falls asleep. On one of those nights last week, I thought, "I am so glad I have no idea what she's doing in there." In fact, I realized there are more than a few reasons I'm glad I don't use a baby monitor.
When our daughter joined us via adoption just over a year and a half ago, my partner and I were pretty much caught off guard. We didn't really start preparing at all, since we had just started our adoption journey five weeks before we received that life-changing phone call. Plus, we just moved to a new country and a new apartment and with only two suitcases of belongings. We didn't have a crib, car seat, changing table or pad, or a single item of clothing for our brand new baby girl. So, it's safe to say a baby monitor was pretty low on our list of priorities.
Like nearly every other parenting decision anyone could possibly make, I make no judgments about parents who do things differently than my partner and I have decided to do. Having said that, I will say that I'm glad we never bothered to get a monitor. There have been a few times I've been really curious as to what my daughter is doing in her room, but overall I'm glad that we've gone the minimalist route for a whole host of reasons, including the following: