One of the most difficult realities about pregnancy is how your body changes. For some, that means larger breasts. For others, it means sciatica. Then, of course, there are stretch marks. Some moms are proud of their “tiger stripes,” while others go to great lengths to hide them. A loving partner can certainly help a new mom embrace her postpartum body which, honestly, isn't easy to in a society that has unrealistic beauty standards. For example, there are things every man says about his partner's stretch marks that might just help an exhausted, nervous, and overwhelmed new mom back into that fabulous, body-positive mindset.
Of course, it's worth mentioning that the sex of any supportive partner is irrelevant, especially when it comes to supporting a postpartum mom who isn't too big on her looks. Any partner should be saying the following things, just so we're clear. Still, with so much focus shifting to mothers, rather than fathers, and so much pressure on mothers to provide, while fathers are still considered glorified babysitters by some, it's worthwhile to call some dads out. Your job, gentlemen, is only just beginning, and part of that job is making sure the new mom in your life is loved and supported.
Prior to giving birth, I worried constantly about getting stretch marks. I rubbed a giant stick of coco butter on my belly day in and day out. I scanned to see if any were growing. Until one day I realized, if it’s going to happen it’s going to happen. I was never one to show off my belly to begin with, but I knew I should be able to do so if I wanted, marks or not. When I looked at myself from the perspective of an outsider, it was easy to see that stretch marks really don’t matter. My husband never once said a negative thing about the few I did finally develop. He still kissed my belly. He still desired me. Hell, he still desires me. He’s never once questioned why I’d wear a two-piece to the beach, either. So if you’ve got a partner who just gained her stripes, respond accordingly and in the following ways: