When I became a mom, both my partner and I were shellshocked. It honestly took several months before we got used to the idea that we were parents. Our daughter joined our family via adoption, and we only had six hours notice before her arrival. So, needless to say, the whole parenting gig took us by somewhat of a surprise, which is why, looking back, there are things I wish my partner said to me when I became a mom.
To be fair, I'm sure my partner feels the same way. Both of us were trying so hard to figure everything out all at once that we barely had time to think, let alone say thoughtful or helpful things to each other. In some ways, it's a sort of a shame that we didn't get to ease into our roles as mother and father more slowly. Then again, the enormous gift of our daughter fully outweighs all those petty wishes. I still wonder what it would have been like to be a little more prepared, but in the end and always I'm so glad we entered parenthood the way we did: in a total whirlwind.
We didn't even have a car seat or a bassinet or a single piece of clothing for our newly adopted daughter, so clearly what we said to each other was more along the lines of, "How many diapers should I order?" o,r "Are you sure you made the bottle right?" Still, hindsight is unforgiving and now that time has moved me forward in the motherhood journey, there are definitely some things I wish he'd said when I became a mom.