I hate to spend a significant amount of time hanging out on the "adoptive mom soapbox," talking about what other moms could learn from someone like me. I'd much rather sit back and take advice from moms who have been at this game much longer than I have. However, I've realized that while some of the things every mom could learn from an adoptive mom aren't exclusive to our club, they're definitely amplified by adoption situations. Whether it's extra compassion or extra gratitude, adoption makes everything feel just that bit bigger, covering over some of the little nuisances or petty issues all moms deal with on a daily basis.
I didn't have strong feelings about birth moms or birth families before we decided to pursue adoption. In fact, I'm not sure I thought about them one way or another and very much at all. However, becoming an adoptive mom turned me into not only a huge advocate for adoption, but also a huge advocate for all of us being more compassionate, flexible, and thoughtful to those around us.
Adopting our daughter hasn't made us judgmental of women who choose to have their children adopted. Actually, it has done the polar opposite. It has opened my eyes to sides of situations I never would have had to encounter otherwise, and those situations have forced me to grow as a mom (which isn't something that I take for granted, knowing how easy it is to fall into survival mode instead). So, with that in mind, here are just a few things adoptive moms can teach every other mom under the sun.