When you talk about or contemplate having kids, you're usually left with one resounding question to consider: "Are you ready to have kids?" What exactly "ready" means, depends on the individual but, sadly, so many people think that being "ready" means hitting a certain age. Is there a magic age where you are just instantly ready to have children? Nope. Everyone grows and matures at different rates and is ready for kids at different times (if they want to have kids at all). There are many times I have been thankful that I became a mom in my 20s, despite some of the difficulties I may experience along with it and regardless of whether or not other people thought I was "ready."
I often get criticized for having my daughter "too young" and "not living my life." Those criticisms don't phase me, though, as I can confidently say that I am happier than I have ever been, because my daughter is in my life. While I am young, I most definitely am not "too young." I am mature, responsible, and perfectly qualified to be a great mother, regardless of (and actually because of) my age. My partner and I balance our work life, school life (before we graduated college), social life, and family life (which includes the time we spent with just us) and I would argue that my daughter has not suffered any from it, but instead, has flourished because of it.
Not spending every moment of every day with my daughter makes our relationship strong, too. My last semester of college, I was able to participate in a concert that required rehearsals, performances and many nights of practices. I was able to enjoy something I absolutely love (with friends), then enjoy spending time with my daughter. Perhaps, most importantly, I could rest easy knowing that my daughter was witnessing her mother do something for herself, by herself, and I can't tell you how happy and fulfilled that made me. Even though she wasn't even two years old, I could see how proud of me she was, and how much she had enjoyed the show. That made it all worth it. That moment made being a mom in my 20s so rewarding and made me so thankful I can share them with my daughter. So do moments like this: