I was one of the first of my friends to get pregnant and subsequently decide I was ready and willing and able to become a mother. I was lucky in that a best friend was also pregnant (just a few months ahead of me) and my friends were wonderfully supportive, albeit very surprised, and I didn't have to deal with too much judgment or raise eyebrows. However, from time to time I did hear some of the things every new mom in her 20s doesn't want to hear from her friends; things that don't make a life-choice as big as parenthood any easier.
I think the majority of what a new mom's friends say, especially when they're in their 20s, comes from the best of places. Their intentions are good and they just want to express to their friend that they miss them. Your 20s is a time of massive transition, whether it be school or marriage or traveling or a career or military service or parenthood, and all of those changes can leave you feeling nostalgic. You can't help but long for the simple days of high school or college, where all of your friends were in one specific place and you were just a few minutes away from them and seeing them was about as big a deal as putting on clothes in the morning; it was just a thing you did every day. Now that we're making decisions that effectively set the tone for the rest of our lives, well, emotions get the best of us and we end up saying things that are more hurtful than helpful.
Still, it is important to think about what we're saying to our friends, especially new mothers who are having a tough enough time transitioning into parenthood sans sleep, so that we can be supportive. With that in mind, here are a few things every new mom in her 20s is so tired of hearing her friends say to her. I mean, we love you guys, but just, like, no.