Dating isn't easy, which probably comes as a shock to literally no one. I spent a good portion of my late teens and twenties casually dating (and sometimes, seriously) and I can tell you that it can be exhausting. The anxious first dates, the disappointments, the heartbreak; I mean, there's only so much a human being can take. Then, one day, I met my partner, and dating didn't seem so exhausting anymore. A year later, I was looking for OB-GYNs, and realized that finding your OB-GYN is harder than finding your partner, and way harder than dating in general. I mean, I had done the leg work in the romantic relationship department, but that was nothing compared to finding someone that I was comfortable with, and who I trusted, to help me bring my baby into the world.
My partner and I had time to get to know another, learn about one another, and trust one another. We didn't have to worry about "rushing" anything, because we honestly had all the time in the world. We could casually meet for a drink or a light dinner and talk and laugh and there was no pressure. I can't say the same about meeting OB-GYNs. I was definitely under a deadline; there were no drinks offered; I didn't get to eat a nice meal in the process; I definitely had to be completely open and honest about my past (medically, of course). Because I had a high-risk twin pregnancy, I had to meet with specialists and a team of doctors and nurses and it was far more overwhelming than any first date I had ever been on. I mean, I would take a blind date over meeting with another neonatal specialist.
Then again, dating definitely helped me deal with the process. Finding an OB-GYN and finding a romantic partner are similar in so many different ways, so my bad dates (in the end) helped me find someone that I could trust with my, and my baby's life. So, if you're in the middle of finding your own OB-GYN, know that your past dates (even the crappy ones) were somehow easier and, as a result, will help you find someone that works best for you.