Most adults are not strangers to the challenges of making new grown-up friends, and most parents are not immune to how complicated it can be to make new parent friends. Like, is this other mom really as awesome as she seems? Do our parenting philosophies really align as much as I think they do? Are our kids really going to be BFFs forever? It's enough to either drive you insane, or remind you of your pre-baby life, because there's no denying that playdates are exactly like adults dates.
Then again, somehow (probably because they involve children and playground politics are no joke) playdates have the potential to be even worse. So, I guess that horrific dating life you had pre-partner (if you have a parenting partner, which clearly is not a prerequisite or requirement) or pre-baby, kind of pays off. You're, um, welcome? I mean, I'm not saying you should call and thank an ex-boyfriend or girlfriend but, you know, that heartbreak wasn't for not. Win-win?
Personally, I just moved to a new neighborhood with a small park that seems to be a popular watering hole for all the local kids (and, in turn, their parents). Here, other moms will say hello and will ask about my kid, and actually make an effort to be friendly, which is lovely in a retro kind of way. Not that I’m complaining, I definitely see the value in making mom friends (I’m one of those ladies who looks forward to my moms group), but I can’t deny that when you’re in closer quarters, meeting mom friends and setting up playdates is shockingly similar to dating.