I know it's old news, but I feel it can never be said quite enough: raising feminist sons is one of the best things a parent can do. That and convincing your kids that house elves are real and then blaming the house elves when things go missing. I've done both. While watching my children literally and in all seriousness shake their fist and grumble "Dobby!" when they're looking for a misplaced toy is absolutely amazing, the whole "raising a kid who feels less encumbered by gender expectations and seeks to treat everyone equally" is actually more deeply satisfying.
To that end, a few weeks ago I wrote about ways to help your son undermine the Male Gaze. For those of you not familiar with the term (we'll get into it more in a moment), the Male Gaze describes the fact that most visual media is directed for and by a male viewer. I argued that it was more pressing to address this issue with boys who, unlike our daughters, will not have a lived female experience to counter a rich media culture more or less constantly catering to them. As a mother, I take this role very seriously...but I can't be the only voice my little boy hears on this matter. When it comes to my son, male voices are going to be crucial in navigating his relationship with women and feminism.
This is, in part, because of the strong family bonds he has to his father, grandfathers, uncles, etc. But another huge factor here is the social bond encouraged between men (and men and boys). Men can reach out to other men (and boys) in ways that women often can't.
So, are you a man? Do you have a child/children in your life? Do you want to help pulverize the Male Gaze into itty-bitty pieces? Here's what you can do: