Choosing whether or not to have children is a pretty monumental decision. And if you do choose to become a parent, deciding when is arguably just as difficult. From combing over your finances to considering your career goals to establishing a solid relationship, feeling "ready" for parenthood is a subjective experience that looks different for different people. If you're considering starting your family as you edge closer to 30, there are things no one tells you about having a baby in your late 20s, if only because we, as a culture, have made the mistake of assuming having a baby is a relatively universal experience for everyone. I can assure you, it's not.
I had my first baby at 27. My daughter passed away as a result of premature birth, so my partner and I decided to try again and I had my second baby, my son, at 29. So it's safe to say that my late 20s were nothing like I had imagined they would be. In fact, I assumed that if I ever did have kids I would wait until I was at least 35. Obviously that didn't happen, and looking back I'm actually glad that my plans went out the proverbial window. I was able to enjoy the freedom of my early and mid 20s, but I was also able to settle into life as a parent before I reached 30.
Of course, from time to time, I can't help but wonder what life would be like if I had decided to become a mom in my early 20s or in my 30s, but I definitely don't have any regrets. And, in the end, the only person who really knew when it was the right time for me to start my family was, well, me. So with that in mind, here are a few things no one really tells you when you're planning to have a baby in your late 20s... but I will.