When my ex-husband mentioned the word'divorce, I was overwhelmed with sadness. At that point, it had less to do with my marriage ending and more to do with my 3-month-old daughter. I hated that my time with her would be cut in half, and that she'd have to split the holidays between us. It was terrifying to think about. No one wants to stay in a loveless marriage, but how are you supposed to survive the holidays when your child is with their other parent?
I don't think there's ever a perfect answer. You get divorced, you make a custody agreement, and you settle into your new routine, but sometimes it still feels wrong. Even if you and your ex have a perfect co-parenting relationship, there are few things that will be more heartbreaking as a divorced mom than spending a holiday without your babe. Of course, you probably already miss your child when they are with their other parent, but the holidays can bring a whole new sense of dread. Becoming a parent puts all of those special days into amazing technicolor, showcasing the magic and wonder to you all over again, feelings you haven't had since you still believed in Santa and made Turkey-themed crafts. The trick is to getting through the day without missing all of the fun and experiences of Thanksgiving or Christmas. You still have plenty to celebrate and these seven tips on surviving the holidays without your children can help you through the tough moments. (Trust me, there will be a few.)