Who could've imagined the number of arguments and debates that would revolve around where our babies sleep, right? Some parents co-sleep, some bed-share, and some sleep train, but all parents usually have some feelings about each particular sleeping arrangement. Every parent is scrutinized for their choices, don't get me wrong, but I think us co-sleeping parents have it particularly tough. From faux concerns about my child's safety to the belief that I'm raising a co-dependent kid, I've heard it all. But no, my co-sleeping isn't "spoiling" my baby. I promise.
Co-sleeping was always the plan for me and my family, though bed-sharing wound up being an unexpected surprise just shortly before our son turned 1-year-old. I recall folks telling me never to let my son in the bed my partner and I share, because it would “spoil” him. As you might imagine, I shrugged it off. After all, spoiling a baby? I'm pretty positive that's impossible.
That's not to say, of course, that my son didn't prefer bed-sharing to co-sleeping, because he absolutely did. He loved our bed because it was much more spacious and comfortable than his sleep space, and he liked being near his parents. He also loved napping in our bed without mom and dad around, too, so the jury's as to whether or not my partner and I were really an important part of the bed-sharing equation. Giving up our bed to our son might sound like I'm "spoiling" him, but I was just doing what's necessary to allow him to get the sleep he needed. I mean, I’ve laid on his crib mattress before and I get it. Of course my bed feels better. That bed didn’t spoil him, though, and for the following reasons: