Birth plans are synonymous with so-called "demanding" mothers-to-be. I, honestly, have no idea why they get such a bad rap. Regardless of how meticulous a birth plan may be, every woman has the right to decide what happens to her body and her baby. So I feel confident saying there are more than a few things things you don't get to tell me about my birth plan because well, it's my birth experience we're talking about, people. When it's your turn, I promise I'll keep my opinions to myself. Fair enough? OK, cool.
My first birth plan was created over the course of nine miserable months. I'd left my job, been ordered to bed rest due to high blood pressure, and had all the time in the world to obsess over the future and how I wanted labor and delivery to go. My partner and I were committed to one another, but my pregnancy solidified that commitment in a way very few things can, essentially forcing us to re-evaluate where we wanted to go in life and how we planned on getting there. In other words, that 40 weeks (more or less) of pregnancy were all about big decision making, and how I wanted to give birth was one of those important choices I found myself making.
Thus, my intricate birth plan was born (excuse the pun). It was my way, however small, of reeling in a little control I felt like I had lost. I needed to go into labor and delivery feeling secure and confident. My plan reflected my preferences, and I didn't take anyone else into consideration. I mean, no one else was going to give birth to my baby, so why should I? So with that in mind, here are some people shouldn't be allowed to tell you about your own birth plan: