As a first-time mom, I was all about providing my my baby the best life. By the time her little brother was born, two-and-a-half years later, I just wanted to get through the day. The level of preparedness for my first kid was sky-high. When my second kid arrived, I had diapers and hand-me-down onesies and a pair of boobs that had been down the nursing road before. But breastfeeding my second child was totally different than it was with my first.
The positives? I worried less. I could troubleshoot more easily, because I had a basis of comparison. Like, my first kid didn’t start choking during letdown, which clued me in to the overproduction issues I had the second time around. The negatives? I had a jealous toddler who hated when it was her little brother’s time to eat.
So while I was more of a pro at breastfeeding with my second kid, it didn’t mean it was at all easier. Not only did I have my hands full, literally, with a baby and a feisty toddler, but my partner was also otherwise occupied. Gone were the days when he’d fetch me beverages and hand me the TV remote while I settled into a nursing session. He was attempting to wrangle our older child, swooping in to pry her clinging hands off my shoulders while I tried to feed our little one. He was too busy filling her sippy cup to bring me a glass of water. And the remote? The toddler had hidden it in a desperate act of rebellion.
Luckily, my son was a good eater who could chow down under the most chaotic circumstances. But I wish I could have given him more attention during our feeding sessions, soaking him in as I did my first baby. Especially because I don’t plan on having any more children.
Here are some ways I found breastfeeding your first kid to be vastly different from your second: