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What To Text Your Friend Who’s Trying To Conceive

Because wanting to get pregnant, and having to wait, isn’t easy.

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Trying to get pregnant can be incredibly emotional, even if everything is in “working order” and there aren’t any known fertility issues. So when a friend is trying to conceive a baby, knowing how to offer support is so important. Is bringing up the subject taboo? Can you try to help them laugh about it? What kind of texts can you send to a friend trying to conceive?

Perhaps what’s most important is to consider your friend’s feelings and personality first before you hit send. Consider that what you say in a text needs to pass the inflection test (meaning, can they hear your tone in your words). If something you think is funny might not come off that way in text form, reconsider. Being sensitive to someone struggling with conception is paramount. If they’re undergoing fertility treatment, drugs may make them more emotional. Others might feel anxious or depressed. And some are just ready to be a parent, and having to wait to see two pink lines on a stick can leave them fraught with stress and worry and sadness. Seeing your friend for who they are as a person, and knowing that the wait to get pregnant can feel overwhelming to just about anyone, can help humanize their experience and make them feel less alone.

So yes, do reach out via text to your friend who’s trying to get pregnant, but do it in a way that lets them know you’re there and ready to listen if they need to talk and share and vent or maybe even just let them cry for a bit.

Supportive Texts To Send A Friend Trying To Get Pregnant

Sending words of encouragement and support are vital for a friend in the midst of trying to conceive. For many, the long, slow process of conception can feel never-ending. Knowing you’re in their corner can help.

  • “Here for you.”
  • “Tell me more about what’s going on.”
  • “Is there anything I can do for you this week?”
  • “If you need to talk, I’m available.”
  • “Want me to come with you to your next appointment?”
  • “Want to go for a walk?”
  • “Can I bring you dinner?”
  • “I know this is bad news and I’m so sorry.”
  • “May I treat you to lunch to catch up?”
  • “The wait isn’t easy, I know. Do you want to talk about it?”
  • “Everything you’re feeling is valid, I promise.”
  • “How you feel is exactly how you’re supposed to feel — there are no wrong answers here.”

Funny Texts To Send A Friend Trying To Get Pregnant

Disclaimer: Read the room. If you think your pal is up to a little humor, then by all means, send them a funny text. But be careful not to be too flippant lest you make matters worse.

  • “Want to come over and not talk about it?”
  • “Snuggle in, embies.”
  • “Praying that this is your time to sing The Circle of Life.”
  • “‘Trying is the fun part,’” said no couple struggling ever.
  • “I heard Clomid is a gateway drug. True?”
  • “May the embryos be ever in your favor.”
  • “Are you on fertility drugs or are you just happy to see me?”
  • “I hereby grant you permission to smack the next person who tells you, ‘Just relax, it’ll happen.’”
  • “Want to come over to my house and punch my throw pillows for a bit?”
  • “I have it on good medical authority that chocolate helps.”
  • “Shall we watch TikToks of all the things we’re not going to actually try.”
  • “If you want someone to come over and do headstands with you to get those sperms a-going, I’m game.”
  • “Please tell me you’ve already banned your partner from putting a hot laptop on his balls.”
  • “Let’s just go ahead and assume that your eggs are as stubborn as you are.”
  • “Hey, all this waiting just means more wine in the meantime.”
  • “Want me to come pee on some sticks, too?”
  • “So I guess fried eggs are out of the question for breakfast, huh?”
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Understanding Texts To Send Someone Trying To Have A Baby

  • “It’s OK to cry.”
  • “Some days are going to be shitty. And that’s OK.”
  • “Thinking of you today.”
  • “It’s OK to be selfish right now.”
  • “Remember, I’m here for you if you need me.”
  • “I know this is rough and it hurts and I’m with you.”
  • “I’m hurting with you.”
  • “Feel free to scream at will.”
  • “Sending you hugs.”
  • “You’re allowed to be angry.”
  • “If you want to take a break from ovulation tracking, do it.”

Texts To Send A Friend After Miscarriage

Miscarriages can be isolating, scary experiences. Help your friend know that they don’t have to shoulder their grief alone with these text ideas.

  • “I’m so sorry for your loss.”
  • “I’m thinking of you.”
  • “I’m not sure what to say, but I’m here for you.”
  • “Please don’t hesitate to reach out if you need anything.”
  • “I’m bringing you dinner and dessert today.”
  • “How you feel matters, no matter what anyone says.”
  • “Do you want to talk about it?”
  • “I’ll come sit with you and cry, too.”
  • “Sending you all the love.”
  • “Here to talk anytime.”
  • “If you need to get away for a bit, my door is always open.”
  • “You’ve been in my thoughts. How are you doing?
  • “❤️”

Use your words wisely and your friend will feel supported while they continue their fertility journey.

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