Even couples who've never fought before will likely experience their first all-out blow out in the first few months of parenting. My favorite truism is a fan favorite of most new parents, I'm sure, but saying "parenting is hard" doesn't even begin to describe how hard it truly is when your baby is crying. Sometimes acknowledging what makes parent life difficult can help you get through it, so go ahead: focus on theinfuriating things your partner will do when your baby cries. I say you can't get through something until you face that something head on, right?
First of all, let me make clear that I think the "dads can't handle parenting" trope is complete and total bullsh*t. In a dad and a mom home, dads should be just as responsible for kids as moms are. That said, I think we, as a society, do a huge disservice to our men when we socialize them as if they can't handle themselves. Think about the common stories we teach, including "boys will be boys," and "cover the girls up because men can't control themselves," and "dads babysit, they don't parent." Yes, believe it or not, those lessons are still being perpetuated by a patriarchal society that truly believes parenting is a women-only game.
With messages like this it's no wonder that when some grown-ass men become fathers they have zero faith in their ability to be one. They have no confidence in their ability to kiss scraped knees, cuddle the monsters away, or sing lullabies. Am I the only one who is depressed and infuriated by this? Let this list of what he'll do when the baby is crying serve as an example of what not to do for future generations of fathers.