When it comes to the slice of the internet occupied by parents, moms frequently get called out for our comments and behavior over the so-called “mommy wars,” which is only partially fair. Yeah, we’re in there scrapping sometimes, but we should recognize and name how internalized sexism combined with the soul-crushing stress of systemic economic and gender oppression makes it hard for people to have civil conversations about anything, especially motherhood. But dads are not at all immune to the aforementioned, and there needs to be rules for dads commenting on parenting articles, too.
While men typically comment less frequently on parenting articles (largely the result of them doing less reading about parenting, because men still do disproportionately less work related to child-rearing overall), when they do show up in the comments, it's usually a hot mess. As if it wasn't bad enough dealing with other moms telling us how we should birth or how we feed our kids or sleep; having men who will never experience most or any of that stuff show up to tell those of us who will is just the worst. Nope, nope, a million times, nope.
Now, I can already hear y’all objecting, and yes, I agree that not all men are this bad. Like with anything, if it applies it applies, and if it doesn’t, it doesn’t. But if your first instinct is, “That’s not fair! Not all men are like that! I know I’m not like that,” you probably are, but nobody wants to be the one to tell you. So, since the people who need to learn this most probably aren't reading right now, here’s some ammo for you, moms, to bookmark and save for the next time you’re in a parenting conversation on social media, and that guy shows up to tell everybody their business. You’re welcome.