Postpartum life can be blissful. After all, you’re probably enjoying lots of warm snuggles with your tiny baby, and OMG don’t they just smell so amazing? Folks will surely flock to you, wanting to see your new bundle of joy. They’ll smile and bring presents and want everything to do with your baby. That same postpartum life can be harsh, though. You’ve been the center of attention during your pregnancy, and now all anyone can do is dote on your newborn. That’s when you realize t there are things you need to hear besides ,“Your baby’s beautiful.”
When my own son was small, and finally home from the hospital, I mostly had people wanting to chat about the new baby. Of course, that’s totally fine. I loved and still love talking about my son. Still, it was kind of a strange experience, to no longer get that same attention I was getting for 40 (more or less) weeks, when I was growing another human being inside my body. People just weren’t asking me about how I was doing, or about my experience, nearly as much as they used to.
Again, I get it. I really do. Newborn babies are hard to ignore, and most people wanted to comment on how beautiful and long my son's eyelashes were (it’s true), or how gorgeous his eyes are (which, yes, they are gorgeous), or how much he looked like his dad (still does). But still, the fact remains that I just went through an unbelievably taxing experience in order to bring those long eyelashes and gorgeous eyes into the world. I didn't want people to ignore my son entirely, but it definitely would have been beneficial to hear people say some of the following things, instead: