The night my husband proposed was one of the happiest nights of my life. We were on a rare date night, and as the opening credits of Star Wars: The Force Awakens moved down the screen and the theme song began to play, he handed me a box with a ring. I, of course, said yes and immediately started planning in my head. Not just things like the venue and dress, but how we'd tell our kids about our engagement. There are so many things that go through your head when you tell your kids you're engaged.
After all, we weren't just marrying each other. We both had children from previous marriages, and we were going to have to "blend" our families together. The phrase "blending" families is not quite right, though. In my experience, it's been more like making a fruit salad than making a smoothie. The "flavors" don't always work well together and often they compete with each other for your attention.
As much as we were happy and excited about our engagement, we knew there was a possibility our kids might not be, at least not right away when we broke the news. And while we both believe in letting our kids feel and express emotions, if I'm being honest I have to admit that we were nervous that they were going to cry or be disappointed or that they would never warm up to the idea at all. We wanted our children to be happy about our marriage and to not worry about the complicated things to come but, unfortunately, there's no handy guide for how to break the news.