From the moment you start to show, people are quick to ask, "Are you having a girl or a boy?" Once your newborn babe is here, we (as in parents, and society in general) find ourselves treating baby girls differently. However, we don't have to. There are things you don't have to say to your baby girl, even if everyone else does and even if it's considered to be the "normal" way to talk to babies that have been assigned female at birth. Even the things you grew up hearing or wanting to hear from your mother, don't have to be the things you absolutely say to your little girl.
Why are we, as a culture, so occupied with gender roles? After having and helping to raise both girls and boys, I have seen firsthand that girls aren't necessarily quiet and shy, and boys aren't necessarily rough and tumble. As a feminist mom, I try hard to avoid reinforcing traditional gender roles in our home and try to encourage my daughters to develop their own interests and identities, even if it means my youngest becomes a cheerleader or my oldest is pre-occupied with boys. I love them as individual humans, not tiny versions of me through whom I can live vicariously.
I don't assume that my daughters will always identify as girls, or even on the gender binary at all, or that they will date boys some day. I also try to avoid valuing their looks over other attribute; like intelligence, creativity, kindness, and trying hard. I don't want them to grow up thinking the only way to be a "good girl" is to sit still and look pretty and stay silent. I want them to know they are always good at being themselves, which is why I've never felt obligated to tell my baby girls any of the following: