No one told me anything about formula feeding before I had kids. Seriously. I honestly thought formula feeding was something "lazy moms" did (as if there's such a thing as a lazy mom), and thought breastfeeding would be the best thing ever. I never planned to formula feed, and when breastfeeding didn't work out with my daughter, I had no idea what to expect and was seriously surprised at how much I loved it. As it turns out, in my experience, many of the things you'll love about formula feeding don't involve feeding your kid.
I honestly didn't fall in love with my daughter fully until we switched to formula. Before I was so worried about her health, my breast milk supply and trying to follow an insane routine of breastfeed, supplement, pump, and repeat 12 times a day. I felt like I failed, and I was literally attached to her all damn day. Those constant, endless struggles and compounded pressure changed the way I viewed myself, my self-esteem plummeted, I became suicidal, and I felt trapped. No one deserves to spend the newborn months hating themselves and resenting their baby, rather than snuggling, bonding, and recovering from child birth.
When we switched to formula, I felt like I could finally start loving her and loving being a mom. Feeding her became easy and not something to dread, but what's more is formula gave me freedom, peace of mind, and the ability to fall in love with myself again. I realized that motherhood isn't measured in ounces, and I was still a person with needs and joys that didn't have anything to do with what or how I fed my baby.
Now, years later, I know that how you feed your baby is such a small part of being a mother and is such a small part of who I am as a person. Formula feeding taught me that, and the difference it made in my life was tremendous.