I don't give into my kids' every desire, but I do my best to provide them with a few "wants" every now and then. As a kid I went without a lot of things, so I know what it's like to feel inferior or embarrassed when your friends have more than you, be it the new, coolest toy or the best, trendiest clothes. But perhaps more importantly, I know there a helluva lot more things your kid needs that money can't buy, and those things are way more valuable and important than anything I could procure at a store.
When my daughter was a toddler — the first grandchild on all sides — she was gifted with damn near anything and everything she could ever want or need. I didn't mind at first, but as the years went on I noticed how entitled she started to act. Even with the arrival of her younger brother, she'd become so accustomed to people buying or giving her things, she couldn't handle this new baby getting anything unless she got something, too.
Over the last few months, my family has gone through a major transition. We moved out-of-state, away from family and friends, and had to downsize all of our belongings to a fraction of what we were used to in order to accommodate. We knew the move would be an adjustment, and during this new period of change I'm, once again, reminded that what my children need more than toys or clothes, is the following: