10 Ways Pregnancy Actually Makes Your Relationship Stronger
bySabrina Joy Stevens
Barely five weeks into being pregnant with my son, I was already starting to feel nauseous, jumpy, and exhausted. No longer able to count on my normal energy reserves, I had to get really focused on what mattered to me, start taking better care of myself, and being direct about my needs. One of those needs, unfortunately for me, was the need for help. Though I'm normally the sort of person who wants to do everything herself (cause how else will it get done right?), I quickly realized that was not going to be an option for the next few months (or really, for the next few years of trying to raise this child). Having to lean on my partner in a totally new way made me realize that being pregnant can actually make your relationship stronger.
Obviously, when I say this, I am talking about healthy, respectful partnerships. It should go without saying, but I'll say it anyway: while pregnancy can feel like a magical time, pregnancy is not actually magic, and pregnancy cannot fix a fundamentally weak or abusive partnership. If you're with someone who struggles to be patient, generous, or empathetic under normal circumstances, the challenges of pregnancy are likely to make that exponentially harder. For many people in abusive relationships, pregnancy is when the abuse either starts or worsens. If you find yourself in that kind of situation, please do all you can to figure out your options, get some support, and leave if at all possible.
However, if you're in a positive relationship, pregnancy can actually make your partnership stronger. Fortunately, that was my experience. Knowing that we obviously couldn’t share being pregnant or giving birth, my partner agreed to do whatever he could to help me feel as comfortable as possible, whether it was making whatever food I needed whenever I needed it (yay, midnight bacon!), doing way more than his normal load around the house so that I could do less, giving massages, and even fastening my shoes when it got too tough in my third trimester. Pregnancy can bring out the best in a strong relationship, because...