Despite the fact that pregnancy loss affects millions upon millions of women, there is a taboo associated with openly discussing it. While there are organizations and initiatives that encourage women and families to break the silence it is, nevertheless, a subject mired in silence. This is a problem, because it encourages and fosters ignorance, as well as a lack of empathy and understanding. It leaves a lot women feeling completely alone, when they're anything but. It's definitely why women struggle to love themselves after experiencing a miscarriage; because the default response is usually "something is wrong with me," rather than remembering that an estimated 20% of recognized pregnancies end in miscarriage.
Emotionally speaking, there are no universals truths about having a miscarriage. Someone may be absolutely devastated after losing a pregnancy. Another person might not feel much of anything. Someone else might even feel relief. Absolutely any and all of those feelings and reactions are completely valid, even and especially when they're experienced at the same time. So, in speaking about ways to care for yourself following a miscarriage, you will ultimately know what is best for you. If you're suffering from and through the experience of a miscarriage, I can only offer suggestions and insights from my own experience. You, and you alone, will know what you need and in no way should feel guilty for asking (no, demanding) that you receive that necessary support.
When I miscarried (almost 21 months after the birth of my son and almost exactly a year before the birth of my daughter), I was in such a state of weirdness, frankly, that there was a lot that I did not feel empowered or allowed to do because of (extremely uncalled for and unnecessary) feelings of guilt.Eventually I was able to listen to my body (and heart) and take steps that helped me heal after a loss, which included the following: