In my experience, the relationship you have with your OB-GYN ends up being rather intimate. This person will likely stick their hands in your vagina, examine your breasts, catch the human you expel from your body, and potentially sew up your abdomen or perineum afterwards. So it's important that you're able to form a sound doctor-patient relationship. Unfortunately for me, things got more than a little bit awkward thanks to the creepy things my OB-GYN actually said to me.
Anyone who’s seen Grey’s Anatomy knows that doctors can be awkward and say the wrong thing. They're only human, after all, and with the number of vulvas they see in a day it's bound to happen. But as understandable as it is to occasionally stick your foot in your mouth, sometimes OB-GYNs say the creepiest, grossest, and downright inappropriate things... and there's no excuse.
I am not OK with a medical provider doing things like addressing my husband and not me when I am standing right there (and when I am their actual patient). I also don't appreciate a doctor questioning whether I'm actually in pain. I'm definitely not OK with a health care provider withholding evidence-based medical treatment or information because they don't trust me to make a decision about my own body or pregnancy.
You guys wouldn't believe some of the sexist, inappropriate, and downright creepy things my OB-GYN said to me. I hope, for other patients' sake, certain doctors learn a thing or two about bedside manner and keep the following comments to themselves: