Making a brand new person from scratch is hard work. While pregnancy can be an incredible moment in a person’s life and an amazing accomplishment, it’s also totally normal to hate being pregnant. Even if you don’t have any major traumas or complications, it can still be a pretty (read: very) uncomfortable experience.
When I was pregnant with my son, I spent my entire first trimester feeling like I had the worst hangover, without the fun of the party. I felt on-the-verge-of-sleep tired for almost my entire first and third trimesters. My elevated sense of smell constantly reminded me of just how much of the world stinks. I had to to pee all the time. Every time I wanted to be still and rest, he would have what felt like a dance party in my belly.
Though I was so happy to become a mom, and experienced many wonderful pregnant moments I sincerely enjoyed, I also really hated so many aspects of pregnancy. Overall, I actually preferred childbirth to pregnancy, a statement that shocks a lot of people but is true, for me, nonetheless. It’s true that there’s an unspoken expectation that you’re supposed to be totally overjoyed all the time when you’re about to have a baby. Maybe that's how it is for some women, but for many of us the exact opposite is true. It’s totally understandable, and it doesn’t make you a bad person or a bad mother or anything other than a normal human being who enjoys complete body autonomy and not, you know, feeling like you have to throw up every three seconds. Trust me, you're not a bad mom, you're normal, and here are just a few reasons why: