I can feel a change coming in the world of parenting, probably in response to the arguably overblown (and endlessly debated and chastised and disccused) "helicopter parenting" movement. I think more and more mothers are wondering how to be a laid-back mom, mostly because there's an endless supply of stress and worry and anxiety at your disposal, forced on you by this palpable, overwhelming need to be the best parent you can possibly be. I mean, when you're responsible for keeping another person alive and happy and you're attempting to raise a human being to be kind and, you know, not the absolute worst, stress not only weighs on you, it overwhelms you.
I, for one, am a big believer in laughter. Well, okay, I'm a big believer in laughing at people.America's Funniest Home Videos was pretty much my favorite show of all time during my formative, adolescent years, because it made it completely acceptable to laugh at other people's misfortunes. It did, however, take a considerable amount of time for me to develop that same laid-back attitude when and if I became the butt of any joke. Thankfully, my partner has done his best to take me down a few notches in the overreaction department, which has made me love him even more. Honestly, there's nothing like a healthy dose of humility to remind you not to take yourself too seriously.
And while it took me a few (read: many) years to learn how to "let go" and be okay with being funny or silly or being laughed at or just being anything other than the "picture-perfect mother" (whatever that means because, honestly, does that mother even exist?), I am definitely a better parent for it. I've learned my lesson on more than one occassion, and along with those lessons came the ability to let the small stuff go, focus on what really matters, and truly enjoy every aspect of motherhood.