There's nothing quite as empowering as figuring out what it takes to make yourself orgasm, right? Whether you've started a new relationship or just know what makes yourself happy during masturbation, it's a big deal when you cum. But now you want to know why sometimes your orgasm is the best thing ever, and the next day its lacking all fireworks. You never thought you'd be "meh" about cumming, but it turns out there are some things that affect the power of your orgasm, in both good and bad ways.
Let's make a note here — the problem is not that you can't orgasm. The issue, if you want to call it that, is that sometimes your orgasms are extremely powerful, and the next day its more of a relaxing feeling and not quite as Earth-shattering. When you compare your orgasms, you don't see much of a difference. Same partner or same toy or same masturbation position — so what gives? Well, it could be one of these 13 things affecting the power of your orgasm. Turns out, there's a whole lot of things that play into the way you climax and, for the most part, they're all in your control. Knowledge is power, right? And so is having an amazing orgasm every chance you can.
1. Bringing Yourself To The Point Of Climax And Stopping
This is known as edging, according to Cosmopolitan, and it's something that can totally change the intensity and power of your orgasm. Just when you're on the brink of cumming, slow down whatever is getting you to that point so that you can build yourself up again. Do this a few times and the results are amazing.
You've probably heard this before, but doing kegels can definitely make your orgasms stronger and more powerful. If your orgasms seem to be lacking in intensity, it might be because of weak pelvic floor muscles, which can be strengthened with kegels. So go forth and squeeze.
3. Alcohol Intake
Feeling a little tipsy? You probably already know that your alcohol intake can make it difficult for you to orgasm, but a study published in The Journal of Sex Research found that women reported more orgasm pleasure while intoxicated, but decreased subjective intensity of the orgasm. Makes no sense, right? Probably just best to stay sober if you want a powerful orgasm.
4. Body Circulation
According to Everyday Health, good body circulation is crucial to sexual satisfaction and response. So keep up with regular exercise to make sure your blood is flowing where it needs to in your time of need.
5. Your Sex Position
6. Vaginal Dryness
Not only is sex painful when you're not lubricating, it can make you self-conscious and ruin your chance of an awesome orgasm. According to Psychology Today, lubricant can make your nether regions feel a whole lot more sensitive and make your orgasms feel so good.
7. Your Breathing Pattern
8. Friction & Pressure On Your Clitoris
Clitoral stimulation is how most women are able to orgasm, but varying the amount of pressure and friction on your clitoris can bring you to a more powerful orgasm. Try using toys or get in a position where you can grind against your partner at your own speed.
9. The Amount Of Orgasms You Have
Apparently the more orgasms you have with your partner, the better they are. It's science. One study found a correlation between the frequency of sex women had with their male partners and their rate of orgasm intensity. Practice makes perfect, y'all.
Being on antidepressants is nothing to be ashamed of, but it can be incredibly frustrating if it's affecting your orgasms. Dr. Jennifer Markus told Cosmopolitan that half of her patients on selective serotonin reuptake inhibitors (SSRIs) complain of problems in the bedroom. While on an antidepressant, you may find that its difficult to cum and, when you do, it's an incredibly weak and lackluster orgasm.
According to Huffington Pos, the stress hormone cortisol can suppress your sex hormones and affect the power and intensity of your climax. Try and relax and see the difference it makes in your orgasms!
12. Loss Of Senses
There's a reason why being blindfolded is so sexy. According to Psychology Today, once you take away the sense of sight, your other senses (like touch) kick into overdrive and can make everything feel more sensual and intense.
13. Your Partner's Sense Of Humor
The same study that proved the more orgasms you have, more intense they are, also found that in heterosexual relationships, a man's sense of humor affected not only the frequency of his partner's orgasms, but the intensity, too.