When you're trying to conceive (TTC) it can feel like your life revolves around ovulation cycles, pregnancy tests, and scheduled sex. All day, every day, you mark menstrual cycles and plan doctor visits and discuss implantation chances. It's all you think about and, likely, all you talk about. Before you know it, your relationship starts to feel like a chore instead of a choice. Honestly, there were some TTC moments that almost broke my relationship with my partner, because I was so consumed with wanting a baby that I completely forgot about us.
After the birth of my first child, who just so happened to be the result of an unplanned pregnancy, I thought having another baby would be easy. It never occurred to me that I'd have to "work" to get pregnant, or that I'd be put through an emotional hell the likes of which I'd never experienced. But getting pregnant again proved to be more than difficult, and it took a toll on nearly every single aspect of my life.
Eventually all the appointments and all the unforeseen frustrations and all the pressure became too much. There was a period of time when my relationship tanked and I wasn't sure my partner and I would recover. Then I miscarried, and while I didn't realize it at the time, the loss actually brought my partner and I back together. It forced us both to take a step back from trying to have a baby and, instead, re-focus on strengthening our relationship. It wasn't easy, to be sure, but we made it through. So with that in mind — and because if anyone can learn from the rollercoaster ride we endured, it'll be worth it — here are some of the moments that nearly ended everything we built.