If you’re a mom and you’ve had a vaginal delivery, you probably think of your vagina in terms of “pre-baby” and “post-baby.” It’s a pretty important part of the body, after all. Some of us have close relationships with ours, while others might not have paid much attention to their vaginas until a baby was pushed through it Whatever the case, people has opinions about vaginas. Yours. Theirs. Everybody’s. While there's arguably too much commentary about our, ahem, birth canals, there are also plenty of things no one is saying about postpartum vaginas.
Prior to ever having kids, me and my vagina were BFFs. For real. I had become incredibly comfortable with my sexuality and the role my vagina played. I was exceedingly knowledgeable in what felt good and what didn’t. I knew exactly how to treat it like the majestic body part that it is (I’m including the vulva in this whole conversation, by the way, since we so often tend to treat them as one and the same). However, our close bond was broken by my pregnancy, and childbirth left me dealing with a long and arduous recovery.
That said, it’s not all bad, and these days my vag and I are well on our way to becoming BFFs again. I wish more folks talked about this journey, and the complicated relationships we might have with our vaginas postpartum. These are some of the things I’ve noticed missing from the general post-baby vag conversation that would break through myths, smash stereotypes, and allow women to feel more comfortable with and about a truly incredible body part.