My bedtime routine begins immediately after dinner, because my two kids will do whatever it takes to avoid sleep. Whether it's reading "one more book" or working on "forgotten" homework or needing just "one more sip" of water, getting my kids in bed takes forever. I don't expect constant praise for handling this monumental task, but when my husband has a proverbial parade thrown in his honor for doing the same, well, I get pissed. The things people worship about dads who handle bedtimethat moms get zero credit for are ridiculous. After all, my husband is a parent, too.
Unfortunately, this unfair treatment isn't anything particularly new. My partner could do the bare minimum when it comes to child rearing and still be applauded and praised as "the best dad ever." But where's my praise for going above and beyond the bare minimum? Where's my applause for caring for my children every single day as I work from home? Why am I not enjoying constant praise for making something undeniably dull, like getting ready for bedtime, fun and exciting for my two children?
Of course, I know the answer to these infuriating questions: sexism. Moms are more often than not the "default" parents, so any effort coming from their partners is seen as "extra." Well, I'm sick of it. Moms who are working just as hard, if not harder, should be receiving the same amount of, if not more, praise. So with that in mind, here's what dads who chip in during bedtime are constantly praised for that us moms do every single day without the same amount of fan fair: