Your partner walks in at the end of the day and puts their arm around you, looking for a little physical affection after a day of running around. You instinctively recoil and move away from their touch as quickly as possible. If this sounds familiar, there’s a good chanceyou’re feeling “touched out.” And although this is a totally normal feeling, there are some things to know about feeling “touched out” that will help you and your partner deal with it.
For starters, what does being “touched out” mean? It means that you’ve spent so much time in physical contact with another human, providing affection and care, that the thought of any more touching makes you retch. It’s something that new parents are especially prone to, as small children are all-consuming and need both your mental and physical attention.
My child , for example, prefers to sit directly on my chest while we’re on the couch watching TV, and she must be in my arms while I cook our entire dinner.Plus, we’re still nursing, so she’s constantly putting her hands in my shirt. By the time my husband gets home and leans in for a kiss and a playful grope, it’s the last thing in the world I want. It’s nothing personal, though it may feel that way to him, but the truth is that I just can’t handle any more touching.
Having an understanding of what being touched out is and why it happens can help you cope with it, and can help you avoid having it turn into a fight between you and your partner. Here are just a few things to know about this all-too-common emotion.