I’ve always been a little competitive. So, while I don’t love that I do this, it’s not surprising that I find myself in competition (in my mind) with my husband about our kids. Although I feel our little boy exhibits a lot of the same tendencies as I do, when it comes to food preferences and personality, there are some things about my son’s relationship with his dad that make me jealous. I know I can’t “win” at parenting, but I can’t help but feel an outsider looking into their world at times.
I’m betting my husband feels this way too, at least occasionally, when it comes to our daughter and how we relate. She and I both love performing arts, clothes, and having long hair. My husband has no interest in those things, though he supports her enthusiasm about dance class and putting together a cool outfit when she volunteers to pick out his clothes.
With my son, I can’t help but feel my husband has an advantage over me when it comes to who our boy would naturally relate to. They share the same anatomy, and while that doesn’t count for everything, it is something. I have to accept that there will be things, as he gets older, that our son will just feel more comfortable talking to his father about than he would to me. In fact, we are kind of going through that now with our daughter. She turned 10 and her pediatrician suggested that I be the one accompanying her to her well visits from this point on, as opposed to a male guardian.
While I don’t know if being the appointed parent for our daughter’s doctors’ visits ruffles my husband’s feathers, I am feeling jealous of the following things about my son’s relationship with his dad: