Giving birth is about as personal an experience as they come. This special moment, however planned or prepared for, doesn't always turn out how you envision, though. When I found out I was pregnant with my son, I immediately knew I wanted to try for an unmedicated birth, free of as many interventions as possible. While I thought a drug-free birth would be the best for my son, it turns out my unmediated birth also made me a more confident person, too.
Describing how empowered my medication-free labor and delivery made me feel is in no way intended to shame anyone’s labor or birth experience. We all become mothers in different ways, we all give birth in different ways, and what works for one of us doesn’t work for all of us. A birth that involves Pitocin and an epidural, or a birth that ends with a c-section (emergency or scheduled) can be and usually is just as empowering as a drug-free birth.
I'm simply speaking about my particular experience giving birth to my son sans pain meds. I was fortunate enough to not need any medication during the entire process and right up until he was born, when I definitely needed morphine for those post-birth stitches. I was fortunate in that my labor didn’t become too complicated, even though my son had a rough couple of postpartum months adjusting to life on the outside. And while I have a lot of a lot of mixed feelings about how everything went down during my son's entrance into the world, deep down I feel pride in the way I was able to handle my birth experience without the assistance of pain medication.