It's nothing new and it's far from ground-breaking, but pregnancy sex can be weird. Body changes and a growing belly and hormonal fluctuations can make what was once easy and comfortable, difficult and awkward. There are logistics that can ensure pregnancy sex is safe, that can they also create additional road blocks that make pregnancy sex, well, strange. Pregnancy sex can also be amazing, though, and there are things about pregnancy sex you'll end up missing, believe it or not.
While some women experience a "dry spell" during pregnancy, thanks to hormones and fatigue and constant nausea, others say that pregnancy sex is the best sex they've ever had. Their libido is heightened and they're trying new things with their partner and they're feeling passionate and connected in a way they never have before. I, for one, never thought I'd miss pregnancy sex. I had a horrible case of morning sickness that lasted the entire duration of my pregnancy and made me feel anything but sexy. I thought pregnancy sex was kind of awkward, sort of uncomfortable and really odd. Then I had my son and actually started missing the pregnant sex I was able to have with my partner. While there were some uncomfortably weird moments, like my breasts leaking milk (honestly, why science? Why?), there were some fun moments that only pregnancy sex could give me. I was enjoying a new body I had never had before, feeling unabated and anything but self-conscious because that body (while larger than normal) was also doing something incredible, and I was falling asleep as soon as I was done having sex. You guys, that's the dream.
So sure, pregnancy sex is weird, but I can guarantee you that you'll miss these seven strange things about pregnancy sex, when you're no longer having it.
Experimenting With New Positions
The farther along a woman is in her pregnancy, the more likely her and her partner will have to experiment with new positions. Missionary position becomes impossible when there's a pregnant belly between two consenting adults, and the necessity of new and creative positions can make sex feel new and exciting again. It's like you're rediscovering passion and your body and your partner's body, all over again, and that's pretty awesome, if I do say so myself.
The Need For Constant Communication
Pregnancy sex creates a need for constant communication, as both parties want to make sure that their interaction is safe for mom and baby while simultaneously being mutually beneficial. There's a lot of, um, logistics when it comes to pregnancy sex, which can facilitate a whole lot of talking. That, my friends, can be extremely hot and get both you and your partner where you want to go, one sexy syllable at a time.
The Increased Blood Flow
Pregnancy hormones increase blood flow to all areas of the body, including the genitals. While that small tidbit of information might sound far too scientific a fact to be a turn on, that increase blood flow can give pregnant women some of the most intense orgasms they've ever experienced. That's so hot.
Talking To People About Sex
Couples (and especially women, thanks to prevailing social judgement) are usually too hesitant or afraid to talk about sex, especially pregnancy sex. Our culture has successfully stigmatized a very normal, very healthy part of human existence, to the point that asking even the most trustworthy of healthcare professionals about sex, feels awkward. When you're pregnant, however, and you want to know if sexual activity is healthy, you'll ask every question you have without a second thought. You don't want to put yourself or your baby at risk, and you definitely don't want to miss out on 40+ weeks worth of orgasms, so social stigma be dammed, you're talking about sex. And honestly, that no-care attitude is liberating.
Ha, just kidding. That was and always will be really weird and while it's a normal part of pregnancy sex, it wont be missed. (Not by me, anyway.)
Oral Sex And All The Rules
Oral sex is perfectly safe during pregnancy, as long as no one has an infection and as long as no one blows air into the vagina. Seriously, it could send an air bubble into your bloodstream, putting yourself and your baby at risk. I, for one, think this rule is fantastic, as it encourages men and women to step up their oral sex game and do it correctly.
Honestly, The Awkwardness
Let's face it, pregnant sex can be awkward. You're rediscovering your body and learning how to navigate new curves and when you add other pregnancy symptoms into the mix, things can get weird. But that's what's also wonderful about it; you feel like you're losing your virginity all over again, even though you've clearly been getting busy. You're "new at this," and it's just as fun and thrilling as it is awkward and sometimes uncomfortable. And they say you can't go back in time.