I've been married twice, and, as a result, I consider myself to be a relative expert when it comes to mother-in-law relationships. I'm going to be honest, though: my relationships with my mother-in-laws weren't that great, and when I got pregnant things got weird, and more than a little bit creepy. There's something about pregnancy that causes people to say some eerie things and, my experience, mother-in-laws are absolutely the worst offenders. You would not believe the creepy things my mother-in-law actually said to me when I was pregnant. I swear you can't make this sh*t up.
Sometimes I really do think they mean well. Hopefully, a mother-in-law just doesn't realize how inappropriate and downright creepy it is to ask her daughter-in-law about her sex life, or other personal questions related to things like plans for breastfeeding, when a baby was conceived, or if a woman plans to deliver vaginally. I know that most grandmas-to-be are super excited to meet their new grandchild, and want to make sure that you have their "expert" advice about how to best manage your pregnancy. But the thing is, most decisions related to pregnancy and childbirth are deeply personal. So, a family member's comments sometimes seem intrusive, rude, and even creepy, especially when coming from your mother-in-law.
I've heard all sorts of creepy things from my mothers-in-law, from casual statements about my pregnant body, to questions about my pregnancy and birthing plans. Not only did these questions and comments make for some pretty awkward moments, but they made me undeniably angry and put a strain on our already tense relationship. I wish my mother-in-law would learn some boundaries, or at least respect the ones I've managed to set. Fortunately, for me, I never plan to be pregnant again, and won't have to hear any additional creepy things like the following: