People constantly objectify women in our culture. I can't remember a time when people didn't comment about my body to my face. This constant harassment means that women and girls receive the message that they aren't valued outside the way they look. This impacts everything from our self-esteem, body image, and emotional wellbeing to our health, safety, and career opportunities. When you get pregnant, it gets worse. You are reduced to a "pregnant body" available for viewing, comments, and subject to disapproval. Saying a woman is "all belly" is not just totally insensitive, it's offensive. Don't do it. Stop.
For me, pregnancy was so surreal. I literally was growing another human in my body. How badass is that? However, I didn't always feel good. Sometimes I threw up 10 times a day, my body hurt, and as an eating disorder survivor, coping with my changing body was hard. The last thing I needed was someone commenting about my body, which at least one person did every damn day. I wish I were exaggerating. The most common comment was how large my belly was. You see, I'm very short. There's literally no place for my baby to grow but out. (and occasionally into my rib cage, diaphragm, and bladder).
People said things like:
"You are all belly."
"You must have more than one baby in there."
"You look ready to pop."
"Are you sure you are right about your due date?"
"Wow, your baby must be huge, how will you push him out?"
I also didn't gain a lot of weight during my last pregnancy, because I had hyperemesis gravidarium (extreme vomiting), right up until delivery. My belly got huge, but you could literally count my ribs. So, I heard even more comments. Not only did these comments and questions make me feel self- conscious, scrutinized, judged, scared, embarrassed, and generally bad about my amazing body, but they are totally sexist. Would you ever say these things to a man? I don't think so.
I try to teach my kids to ask themselves, "Is it kind, true, and necessary?" before saying words out loud. Imagine if everyone did this. Let's try it and see if it catches on.